I first learned about the Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung after listening to the 1983 rock album Synchronicity by The Police. I wrote about Jung and his concept of "synchronicity" in a previous post a few years ago. Jung was an associate of the equally famous (perhaps more so) Austrian neurologist, Sigmund Freud. Believe it or not, you probably know more about Jung than you know about Freud. Have you ever used the term complex (e.g., guilt complex), to describe how you or someone else is feeling? Jung was the first to describe and use that term. Would you describe yourself as an extrovert or an introvert? Again, Jung coined those terms too. What he is less commonly known for and what I want to focus on today is what he called the five pillars of happiness (see Gretchen Rubin's article in Forbes and Arthur Brooks' article in The Atlantic).
Jung wrote, "Happiness is such a remarkable reality that there is nobody who does not long for it. And yet there is not a single objective criterion which would prove beyond all doubt that this condition necessarily exists." Let's not misunderstand his point here - Jung wasn't saying that happiness as an emotional construct doesn't exist, but rather that happiness likely exists along a continuum of emotions. More importantly, happiness as a positive emotion exists along one continuum, while unhappiness as a negative emotion exists along a completely separate one (see my post, "Are you happy?" for more on this point). With this in mind, Jung said, "Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better to take things as they come along with patience and equanimity."
Towards the end of his life, Jung shared his own personal strategy for achieving happiness in life, based upon five key pillars:
1. Good physical and mental health: There have been a number of studies that consistently show that both physical and mental fitness are clearly linked with happiness. For example, the longest currently running study of happiness - the Harvard Study of Adult Development - showed that four of the most important predictors of a senior citizen's wellbeing are not smoking, drinking alcohol in moderation (or not at all), maintaining a healthy body weight, and exercising regularly. Arthur C. Brooks, one of the most important authorities on the science of happiness, would argue that good health practices don't necessarily increase one's level of happiness per se, but instead they lower one's level of unhappiness. I've certainly found that to be the case - there's nothing better after a stressful day at work than a good, hard workout! And as I reflect back on my own life, the times that I've experienced the most happiness were when I felt like I was in the best healthy shape.
2. Good personal and intimate relations, such as those of marriage, family, friendships: Again, I am impressed by the number of studies that provide convincing evidence that fostering and maintaining close personal relationships through marriage, family, and friendships is one of the most important drivers of happiness. Again, the Harvard Study of Adult Development provides important evidence on this point. Robert Waldinger, who has led the study for over two decades, states, "The surprising finding is that our relationships and how happy we are in our relationships has a powerful influence on our health. Taking care of your body is important, but tending to your relationships is a form of self-care too. That, I think, is the revelation." Relationships matter even more than one's heredity (see the article "Good genes are nice, but joy is better" in the Harvard Gazette or Waldinger's TED talk "What makes a good life" for more). The psychiatrist George Vaillant led the study from 1972 until 2004. He said, "When the study began, nobody cared about empathy or attachment. But the key to healthy aging is relationships, relationships, relationships."
3. Seeing beauty in art and in nature: I have to confess that of all Jung's five pillars, this is the one that most surprised me. Jung believed that cultivating an appreciation for the beauty in the world was just as important to happiness as physical and mental health and personal relationships. While both art and nature can be beautiful, nature's beauty is inherent and exists independently of our perception. The beauty of art, on the other hand, results from human creation and reflect the artist's creativity, emotions, and personal concept of what is meant by beauty. Artistic beauty is more subjective and open to interpretation. Natural beauty is more objective. Regardless, an appreciation for both is a key driver of happiness. Whether you are the individual creating the art or merely observing and appreciating someone else's creation, the aesthetic experience will help improve our overall degree of happiness. In regards to nature's beauty, the architect Frank Lloyd Wright said, "Study nature, love nature, stay close to nature. It will never fail you. In regards to artistic beauty, the philosopher Thomas Merton said, "Art enables us to find ourselves and lose ourselves at the same time."
4. A reasonable standard of living and satisfactory work: Arthur C. Brooks again emphasizes that steady and satisfactory work (to use Jung's term) that brings an income conducive to an acceptable standard of living likely decreases unhappiness more than it increases the degree of happiness. However, when work crosses the threshold from being merely satisfactory to become meaningful, there will be an impact on happiness AND unhappiness. Brooks defines meaningful work as work that yields both earned success, which he defines as a sense of accomplishing something valuable and work that involves service to others. Importantly, as I've previously discussed in several posts in the past (see "Money can't buy me love, but can it buy me happiness?", "The mathematics of happiness", and "Money, love, and happiness"), the relationship between money and happiness is not as straightforward as one would believe. The current research suggests that there is indeed a positive association between subjective wellbeing (i.e. happiness) and income, though that relationship peaks at a certain level of income (which depends on the particular study). In other words, above a certain income threshold, more money isn't necessarily going to make you happier. The key point is that individuals have an income sufficient for maintaining an "acceptable" standard of living, which Brooks defines as "having the money to pay for experiences with loved ones, to free up time to spend on meaningful activities, and to support good causes."
5. A philosophical or religious outlook that fosters resilience: I've talked about the need to focus on physical, mental, and spiritual health in the past (see "The Three Dimensions of a Complete Life"). While Jung was a devout Christian, what he defined as a "religious outlook" didn't have to be any specific religious faith. Actually, it didn't even have to be religious in nature at all. As Brooks suggests, "everyone should have some sense of transcendent belief or higher purpose", whether religious or purely philosophical in nature. Brooks further notes, "Religious belief has been noted as strongly predictive of finding meaning in life, and spirituality is positively correlated with better mental health...Secular philosophies can provide this benefit as well."
In The Atlantic article, Brooks states that Jung's five pillars stand up very well alongside modern research findings. He summarized these findings with the following seven points on how we can best live our best, happiest life:
1. Do not fall prey to seeking pure happiness - instead, seek lifelong progress towards happierness (a word coined by Oprah Winfrey, who co-authored the book, Build the Life You Want with Brooks).
2. Manage as best you can the main sources of misery in your life by attending to your physical and mental health, maintaining employment, and ensuring an adequate income.
3. If you're earning enough to take care of your principal needs, remember that happiness at work comes from not chasing higher income but from pursuing a sense of accomplishment and service to others.
4. Cultivate deep relationships through marriage, family, and real friendships. Remember that happiness is love.
5. If you have discretionary income left over, use it to invest in your relationships with family and friends.
6. Spend time in nature, surround yourself with beauty that uplifts you, and consume the art and music that nourish your spirit.
7. Find a path of transcendence - one that explains the big picture in life and helps you comprehend suffering and the purpose of your existence.
I will leave this post with one final quote from Carl Jung, whose five key pillars we discussed. In regards to our journey towards happierness, he said, "Perhaps this sounds very simple, but simple things are always the most difficult. In actual life it requires the greatest discipline to be simple, and the acceptance of oneself is the essence of the moral problem and the epitome of a whole outlook upon life."